Why Narcissistic Abuse is So Hard To Recognise (S5 Ep.4)

When you’re raised by a narcissistic parent, the harm doesn’t come labelled as abuse. It comes wrapped in concern, protection, closeness, and sacrifice. “This is for your own good.” “I’m only saying this because I love you.” Over time, these messages don’t just justify the behaviour — they shape how you understand yourself.In this episode, I unpack one of the most confusing and painful questions for adult children: How did I not know it was abuse? The reason you didn’t see it wasn’t because you missed something. It’s because it was never meant to be seen.Through real-life examples, this episode breaks down the subtle ways narcissistic abuse hides in plain sight — from criticism framed as care, to control framed as protection, to emotional enmeshment disguised as closeness. I also look at why, even in adulthood, so many adults continue to turn the blame inward — and why that response makes sense.Quiz - "Are You Really Going From Zero to Ten?"Find out where you're actually starting fromBEYOND SURVIVAL - The Therapy Podcast