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EPISODE · Feb 16, 2026 · 23 MIN

Why Nigerians decide who "deserves" to be a victim — and why that's dangerous

from GoodLiving Podcast · host Koke

There's a bias most of us carry without knowing it. And it shapes who we think deserves justice, sympathy, and basic human decency.It's called the perfect victim bias: the idea that when someone is wronged, how much we care about their suffering depends on our pre-existing judgement of who they are.In this episode, Koke breaks down what perfect victim bias actually is, where it shows up in Nigerian society, and why your moral compass might be the very thing distorting your sense of fairness.He also gets personal, sharing his own journey from homophobia to empathy, what exposure to real people taught him about sexuality and identity, and why a friend's casual comment about "not having rights" stopped him cold.And the big question he leaves you with: Is homophobia in Africa innate — or was it imported?This episode will make you think. It might make you uncomfortable. That's the point.If this hit, share it. Comment on Spotify or Apple — not just in Kokeboi's WhatsApp. It's how new people find the show.

There's a bias most of us carry without knowing it. And it shapes who we think deserves justice, sympathy, and basic human decency.It's called the perfect victim bias: the idea that when someone is wronged, how much we care about their suffering depends on our pre-existing judgement of who they are.In this episode, Koke breaks down what perfect victim bias actually is, where it shows up in Nigerian society, and why your moral compass might be the very thing distorting your sense of fairness.He also gets personal, sharing his own journey from homophobia to empathy, what exposure to real people taught him about sexuality and identity, and why a friend's casual comment about "not having rights" stopped him cold.And the big question he leaves you with: Is homophobia in Africa innate — or was it imported?This episode will make you think. It might make you uncomfortable. That's the point.If this hit, share it. Comment on Spotify or Apple — not just in Kokeboi's WhatsApp. It's how new people find the show.

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There's a bias most of us carry without knowing it. And it shapes who we think deserves justice, sympathy, and basic human decency.It's called the perfect victim bias: the idea that when someone is wronged, how much we care about their suffering...

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