Why Not Being Chosen Feels So Personal

In this week’s episode, Lauren and Amber sit down with Licensed Professional Counselor Suzanne Fortnum to explore why not being chosen can feel so deeply personal. Together, they unpack the internal shift toward self-blame and how we often interpret someone else’s inconsistency as a reflection of our own worth. The conversation dives into how being chosen can feel like validation rather than genuine connection—and how that mindset can lead us into unhealthy relationships. Suzanne also highlights the trap of “earning” love, explaining that the moment you begin striving for someone’s consistency or affection, you may already be abandoning yourself. Tune in for an insightful and eye-opening discussion you won’t want to miss.