Why “Pick Me” Energy Is Killing Real Connection - ep. 223

In this episode, I’m unpacking something I noticed while putting myself back into real-life rooms, and once I saw it, I couldn’t unsee it. This isn’t about confidence. It’s not about messaging. And it’s definitely not about needing a better elevator pitch. It’s about why so many conversations feel performative instead of powerful, why polished introductions fall flat, and how “pick me” energy quietly kills real connection, even when you’re saying all the right things. We’re talking voice, energy, orientation, and what actually creates connection when you stop auditioning and start engaging. In this episode, we explore: Why networking has drifted into performance instead of connection How “pick me” energy shows up in polished, over-coached voices The difference between speaking at a room and speaking into a conversation Why telling women to “speak up” misses the real issue How the frequency of your voice changes when your attention moves outward ✨ Want more grounded, honest conversations like this? I’ve started writing on Substack, a free space for honest thinking about identity, energy, and self-trust (aka intuition), especially in seasons of transition. No annoying algorithms or inbox overload.  👉 SUBSCRIBE to my SUBSTACK Take the next stepThere’s something you want to change, something you can’t quite figure out, or you know you’re ready for something different but you’re not sure what that looks like yet.Book a complimentary 30-minute Subconscious Strategy Session. We’ll look at what’s going on, what might actually be underneath it, and what needs to shift to move you forward.Book your Subconscious Strategy SessionStay connectedInstagram: @_brendajohnstonFor deeper conversations beyond the podcast, join me on Substack: The Limitless Life Uncensored