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Aug 25, 2025 12 min

Why Replacing “But” with “And” Can Transform Your Relationships

from The Learning Love Podcast

In this episode of the Learning Love podcast, Dr. Mark A. Hicks explores the transformative power of love and effective communication. He emphasizes the importance of language in conversations, particularly the impact of substituting 'but' with 'and' to foster collaboration and understanding. Dr. Hicks discusses how emotional reactions can hinder productive discussions and offers strategies for navigating these challenges. The episode concludes with a call to practice these communication techniques to build healthier relationships. Takeaways Love is the answer, and we must explore the questions. Eliminating the word 'but' can deescalate arguments. Using 'and' instead of 'but' fosters collaboration. Emotional reactions can hinder effective communication. Creating a hierarchy in conversations can lead to defensiveness. Conversations about strategy yield better outcomes. Accommodating others' perspectives is crucial for relationships. Keeping discussions conversational prevents conflict. Asking good questions can lead to revelations. Practice new communication techniques for better relationships. Dr. Mark A. Hicks, author of the book 'Learning Love,' provides tangible, real-life insights on how to build healthy, happy, thriving relationships, even if you come from a dysfunctional family background, have been through a divorce, or struggled with relationships in the past. Love isn't about fate. Love is a skill set, and this is the place to learn that skill set as we spend some time learning love. Order "Learning Love: Building a Life that Matters and Healthy Relationships that Last": https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/learning-love-mark-a-hicks/1146412363?ean=9781636985954 Visit Dr. Mark A. Hicks online: https://www.markahicks.com/

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