Why “Self-Regulation” Is a Misleading Expectation for Young Children

The idea of self-regulation is often discussed in parenting spaces, but for young children, that expectation can be misleading.In this episode, Arbara explains why self-regulation doesn’t develop independently in early childhood, what co-regulation really means, and how children build regulation through supportive relationships over time. This episode offers reassurance for caregivers whose children still need help navigating big emotions and reminds us that support is not a setback — it’s part of development.This episode is a grounding listen for parents who worry they’re “helping too much.”