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EPISODE · Mar 23, 2026 · 35 MIN

Why Sex Feels Hard (& How to Make it Amazing Again), #600

from Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex · host Dr. Juli Slattery

Many married couples carry a secret: one of them doesn't like sex—they may even dread it.  For years, sex has felt more like obligation than pleasure, and they've quietly believed something must be wrong with them. This week, we're tackling the unspoken question: "What if I'm married and I don't like sex?" We'll talk about the real reasons sex can feel difficult or even painful, and call out a few common lies that keep couples stuck. If you've ever felt confused, disappointed, or alone in your struggles with sex, this conversation offers hope, practical insight, and the reminder you don't have to stay where you are. Co-host: Hannah Nitz We'd love to hear your thoughts about this conversation. Leave us a rating and review.    Follow-up Resources:  Be the first to know when Online Book Studies open up Q&A: Past sexual trauma inhibits my ability to enjoy sex. Is there hope that I can heal? (video) Q&A: Sex has never been pleasurable in our marriage. Should I fake it? (video) Preorder 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Sex, Love, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery God, Sex & Your Marriage by Juli Slattery Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? by Juli Slattery Restoring the Pleasure by Cliff & Joyce Penner  Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Cliff & Joyce Penner   Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz Follow Authentic Intimacy at  @authenticintimacy    

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