Why Strong Family Foundation and Values Matter w/Elliot Rae

Being a dad is a role that we play, we are people first. A dad is something that I have become but I'm a man first. To look at it from what kind of dad you want to be without looking at what kind of man you want to become is the wrong way around. You need to define what kind of man you want to be first and that translates to parenting.- Elliott RaeWho is Elliott Rae?Elliott Rae is one of the UKs most prominent speakers on fatherhood, masculinity and mens mental health. He is the founder of the parenting platform MusicFootballFatherhood, called the Mumsnet for Dads by the BBC. MusicFootballFatherhood is the UKs most exciting parenting and lifestyle platform for men. MFF is all about open conversations surrounding fatherhood, work-life balance, mental health, raising healthy and well-rounded children, money management, relationships and of course music and football.He previously worked in the Civil Service where he held senior Diversity, Equity & Inclusion roles and his last role was as the Head of D&I delivery at HM Treasury.Hes been heavily involved in many research projects relating to fathers in the workplace, notably the 2018 Equal Lives report by Business in the Community and the Fathers in the Workplace toolkit by the University of Birmingham where he spoke at both of the launches. He was recognised by the United Nations for his work engaging men in gender equality and was awarded the UN Women UKs #HeForShe Changemaker of the Year award in 2019.Elliot Raes DAD journeyElliott founded the MFF platform as a self-therapy after being diagnosed with PTSD as a new dad after the traumatic birth of his daughter.In his new book DAD, an Amazon Top 10 bestseller, Elliott and 19 other dads shared their stories that represent the diversity of modern fatherhood and challenge the traditional ideas of masculinity.In January 2022, Elliott presented the seminal and primetime BBC One documentary Becoming Dad. This was the first show of its kind to bring issues around dads mental health and work-life balance to the mainstream.Elliott as a speaker, author and social changemakerElliott specialises in helping organisations support fathers, improve mens mental health and engage men in conversations around gender equality.If you are trying to encourage more open conversations about masculinity and allyship and engage more men in your DEI activities, Elliot can help you. Connect here with Elliott.Key Leadership learning moments (timestamps)02:35 - Elliott Rae is not Fond of Introductions03:18 - Elliott's Philosophy - Keep On Putting the Work!05:16 - Elliott's Young Competitive Spirit06:39 - Elliott the Biggest Fan of Football Stars10:31 - His Biggest Supporters, His Parents16:13 - Elliot's Dad Tips for a Happy Marriage19:13 - How to Deal with Ego Effectively as a Man?22:06 - Hurdles in Unleashing Elliott's Full Potential26:01 - Elliott's Journey as a Modern-Day Father27:44 - What it Takes to Be a Good Man?30:22 - Being a Man vs. Being a Dad35:19 - Elliot's Traumatic Experiences39:48 - Mental Health Problems Surfacing - Elliott's Plight46:29 - MFF Origin Story56:07 - The Grit and Determination to Continue Against All Odds01:01:57 - The Numbers Game vs. The Influencer Game01:06:28 - Sope's Key Take Aways On Elliott's Interview01:09:36 - Elliott's Definition of LeadershipElliotts links:LinkedInDad BookWebsiteFollow the podcastIf youve just stumbled across this podcast episode by chance, please click here to follow it so you never miss a future episode.If you want to learn more about this podcast, and myself, Sope Agbelusi, you can do so using any of the links below.Connect with Me Website Instagram LinkedIn Twitter YouTube Email: [email protected] I am always keen to hear your thoughts and connect with the community of listeners. If you have any comments, feedback or thoughts, please drop me an email at https://mindsetshift.co.uk/#ask-me-anything Connect with SopeWebsite | Youtube | Instagram | LinkedInDid you find this helpful? If you like this episode, please leave a review or share it with someone who could benefit from listening.  We’re always keen to get feedback so if you have any thoughts, send us an email at [email protected]