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Jul 6, 2026 1 hr 19 min

Why Strong Men Don’t Always Ask for Help | Jason Kubiak | #110

from The Lonely Chapter

He looked fine, but he was falling apart. In this episode of The Lonely Chapter Podcast, Sam speaks with Jason Kubiak, a firefighter, former professional MMA fighter, father and co-founder of Unified Against Violence CIC. Jason opens up about the period of his life where everything started to collapse around him: divorce, operational trauma, not seeing his children, homelessness, self-medication, isolation and the painful realisation that he did not understand what was happening in his own mind. From the outside, he may have looked capable, disciplined and strong, but privately he was struggling to survive. This conversation explores men’s mental health, firefighter trauma, suicide prevention, emotional isolation, the pressure to be strong, fatherhood, recovery, routine, discipline, asking for help, and the importance of having people who do more than simply say, “let me know if you need anything.” Jason also shares how his experiences shaped the way he now supports others, including his work with Unified Against Violence CIC, a project focused on youth violence, knife crime prevention, public access bleed kits, defibrillators, community safety and giving young people access to belonging, mentorship, sport and support before pain becomes violence. Find Jason on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaykube0067/ Find Unified Against Violence CIC on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unified_against_violence/

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  1. 0:00 Understanding Mental Health Struggles
  2. 5:28 Recognizing Triggers and the Path to Self-Awareness
  3. 10:02 A Journey Through Struggles and Recovery
  4. 17:42 Finding Support and Recovery
  5. 23:25 The Burden of Pride and Ego
  6. 27:02 The Journey of a Fighter
  7. 34:32 The Impact of Routine on Mental Health
  8. 45:24 Establishing Personal Boundaries and Mental Health
  9. 48:30 Understanding Boundaries in Emotional Support
  10. 52:00 Training and Mentorship in Firefighting
  11. 58:06 Transitioning into Fatherhood
  12. 1:08:01 Understanding Youth Violence and Its Roots
  13. 1:12:56 The Importance of Mentorship and Validation
  14. 1:17:30 Conversations and Reflections

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