Why Teens Self-Harm

Many people assume self-harm is simply "attention-seeking" or that it only happens to teenagers from troubled homes. The reality is far more complex.In this powerful episode of Wellness in Every Season, Autumn sits down with therapist, author, and DBT specialist Katie K. May to explore what self-harm really is, why it happens, and how parents, caregivers, friends, and professionals can respond in ways that create connection instead of shame.Together, they also share something deeply personal: both of them struggled with self-harm as teenagers. Their conversation offers hope that healing is possible and that understanding the "why" behind the behavior is often the first step toward lasting change.In this episode, you'll learn:Why self-harm is often an attempt to regulate overwhelming emotions rather than a desire to dieThe difference between self-harm, suicidal thoughts, and other self-destructive behaviorsWhat it means to be a "big feeler" or biologically sensitive personCommon misconceptions that keep parents and loved ones from offering effective supportWhy validation is one of the most powerful tools for helping someone who is strugglingHow emotional regulation in parents and caregivers influences teenagersWarning signs that may indicate someone needs additional supportHow to help a friend who may be self-harmingWhy repair matters more than perfection in parentingHow unhealthy coping strategies can continue into adulthood if the underlying pain is never addressedThe role of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) in treating self-harm and emotional dysregulationWhy creativity, empathy, and emotional depth can become incredible strengths when paired with healthy coping skillsWhether you're a parent, educator, therapist, teenager, or someone who has quietly carried these experiences yourself, this conversation offers practical guidance, compassion, and hope.Connect with Katie K. MayWebsite: katiekmay.comExplore Katie's books, therapy resources, clinician training, and additional support through her website.If you or someone you love is struggling with self-harm:You do not have to face it alone. Reaching out for support is a sign of strength, not weakness. A qualified mental health professional—especially one trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)—can help you build healthier ways to manage overwhelming emotions and begin healing.For more wellness tips and exclusive content, join my newsletter! Sign up now at https://wellness-in-every-season.kit.com/5-days-to-mastering-mornings-and-evenings receive a free 5-day guide called "Awaken and Unwind: 5 Days to Mastering Life's Mornings and Evenings."