Why the ADHD Parenting Advice Doesn't Work - Because You Have ADHD too

New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. You've probably heard the advice: create a consistent routine for your ADHD kid, avoid artificial dyes and flavors, protect their sleep schedule. And on paper? It's not bad advice. But nobody talks about what happens when the parent trying to implement all of it has ADHD too. In this solo episode, JoAnn breaks down why so much ADHD parenting advice quietly assumes a neurotypical parent is the one executing it — and what that means for the rest of us. You'll learn about three things that explain why this advice feels so much harder than it should: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), demand avoidance, and the interest-based nervous system. Then JoAnn shares three practical strategies that actually work with an ADHD brain — including the timer trick she uses to write her own books, why permissive language isn't the same as permissive parenting, and how body doubling helped her finish a rough draft in a month. In this episode: Why "just create a routine" doesn't work when you're the ADHD parent too The truth about artificial dyes, fear-based advice, and what's actually driving the panic Why enforcing a sleep schedule is especially hard for neurodiverse parents Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD): what it is, what it feels like in your body, and how to work with it Demand avoidance: why even your own to-do list can trigger an automatic "nope" Permissive language: how softening a request can actually get more done The PINCH framework: the five things that actually motivate an ADHD brain Timers and gamification: how to turn any task into a game you actually want to play Why rewards need to stay novel — and what actually works long-term Body doubling: how JoAnn used it to finish her book, and how to set it up for your kids too If you've been feeling like a hypocrite for not being able to do the things you're asking of your ADHD kid, this episode is your permission slip. You're not failing. You're an ADHD parent trying to follow advice written for someone else's brain. Now you've got tools that work for yours. Resources Mentioned Want to try body doubling and learn more about how your brain works? Join the No Guilt Mom Inner Circle — three body doubling sessions a day, a book club, and a community that gets it. First month is $19. learn.noguiltmom.com/go And grab JoAnn's free guide on getting your kids to listen and cooperate — without the structure and routines: learn.noguiltmom.com/get-kids-to-listen If you're listening on Spotify, hit the Follow button right now — it's the best way to make sure you never miss an episode and it helps me reach more moms like you. Remember: the best mom is a happy mom. Take care of you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices