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EPISODE · Apr 9, 2026 · 38 MIN

Why they feel impossible to let go of (Anxious Attachment, Trauma Bonds, & Soul Ties) with Katie Blumenfeld

from The Anxiety Recovery Podcast · host Valerie Rubin

If you’ve ever known someone wasn’t right for you…but you still couldn’t let them go…this episode is for you.Because there are certain connections that don’t just live in your mind, they live in your body.The ones you replay.The ones that changed you.The ones that feel almost impossible to release… even when you’ve done the work, you understand your patterns, and you know better.And at some point, you start wondering…Was that a soul tie… or was that my attachment wounds?In this episode, I’m sitting down with Katie Blumenfeld: she’s a psychoanalyst, psychotherapist, and reiki practitioner and we’re really going there.We talk about:why some connections feel so intense, consuming, and honestly… hard to breakhow to tell the difference between real love vs a trauma bond vs what people call a “soul tie”why one person can still have a hold on you… even after therapy, self-awareness, and all the healing workthe grief no one talks about, not just losing them, but losing who you got to be with themthe deeper wound underneath the thought “I’ll never find something like this again”what’s actually happening in your nervous system in these “can’t let go” dynamicsand how to start releasing this, not just in your mind, but in your bodyThis episode is for you if you’ve ever felt stuck on someone who felt… different. deeper. harder to move on from.Because this isn’t just about love.It’s about what your body learned to attach to. If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for the month of April for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together:  https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-callConnect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Connect with Katie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katieblumenfeldlcsw/Check out Katie's Website: https://www.katieblumenfeldlcsw.com/Check out Katie's Substack: https://substack.com/@katieblumenfeldlcsw/p-190017664More info on Katie's signature program: Where the Psyche Meets the Soul: https://www.wherethepsychemeetsthesoul.com/

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