Why This Pregnancy Feels So Different

The scan is fine. The midwife says everything looks good. And yet there's this flatness, this going-through-the-motions feeling, like you're present at all the appointments but not quite inside them. In this episode, Katie explains exactly why that disconnect happens after a difficult previous experience, why it isn't rejection of your baby, and what to do with the guilt that piles on top of it.IN THIS EPISODE:Why your nervous system keeps a lid on hope and attachment after traumaThe specific ways protective disconnection shows up, named without judgementThe grief for the innocent version of pregnancy you expected to havePermission to feel all of it, the terror and the hope, the love and the fearWhy the disconnect doesn't mean you're not a good motherPRACTICAL TOOL THIS WEEK:The permission practice, when a difficult feeling arrives, say: "I am allowed to feel this. This feeling makes sense. It doesn't mean anything bad about me or my baby."RESOURCES MENTIONED:Free Trauma-Informed Birth Plan Workbook | Birthcare with Katie30-Day Calm & Confident Birth Challenge (free)https://birthcare.co.uk/30-day-mindset-challengeBetter Birth Anxiety Workbook — The Birthcare Collectionhttps://birthcare.co.uk/products-listBirth Without Fear: Essentials for a Better Birthhttps://birthcare.co.uk/birth-without-fearCONNECT WITH KATIE:Instagram: @birthcarewithkatieWebsite: https://birthcare.co.uk/With compassion,Katie - NHS Mental Health Midwife | Perinatal Trauma Specialist