Why We Keep Abandoning Ourselves

What does it really mean to abandon yourself—and why do so many of us do it without even realizing?In this episode of Beneath the Patterns, Fay explores the subtle ways self-abandonment shows up in everyday life, from struggling to say no and people-pleasing to feeling guilty for having needs of your own. These behaviours aren't signs of weakness or selfishness—they're often survival strategies developed in environments where keeping the peace felt safer than being fully yourself.Together, we'll look beneath the behaviour to understand the emotional patterns that shaped it, and why healing begins not with self-criticism, but with curiosity and compassion. When we ask what a pattern was trying to protect instead of what's wrong with us, we create the conditions for lasting change.If you've ever found yourself constantly putting others first while losing sight of yourself, this episode offers a gentle reminder that healing doesn't happen all at once. Sometimes it begins with one small moment of choosing yourself.