Why we shouldn't (and can't) "forgive & forget" the past and trauma + how to use mind-management & reconceptualizing techniques to heal how the past plays out into the future

Get my new book Cleaning up Your Mental Mess here: https://www.cleaningupyourmentalmess.com Sign up to join my free text program and receive mental health care tips. Just text DRLEAF to 1 (833) 285 3747 SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk about why forgetting doesn’t fix or heal something, and how to use reconceptualizing and mind-management to heal the past and find true and sustainable peace.  Read the show blog here: https://drleaf.com/blogs/news/why-forgetting-doesn-t-fix-anything OFFERS FROM OUR SPONSORS: -Amen Clinics: Visit amenclinics.com/drleaf and use the promo code DRLEAF10 to get 10% off your first evaluation. -NED (my go to CBD oil brand): To get 15% off your first order and free shipping visit helloned.com/drleaf or use the code DRLEAF at checkout. -Four Sigmatic: Get up to 40% off + Free Shipping on Mushroom Coffee bundles. To claim this deal you MUST go to Foursigmatic.com/DRLEAF. -PlushCare: Go to https://plushcare.com/drleaf/ to start your FREE 30-day trial. PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS: 2:07 Why forgetting doesn’t fix something 2:20 Thoughts are real things in our brain that impact us mentally and physically 2:46 Your mind is not your brain 3:50 Our experiences change our brain and biology 4:51 Why we need to make our thoughts and experiences work for us and not against us through mind management 5:35 Why we cannot just forget what we have experienced, and how suppressing or ignoring a painful experience can impact our health 9:25 How our immune system responds to our negative experiences 11:30 Why trauma and toxic experiences are so hard to process 16:10, 36:15 Why we cannot just pretend something didn’t happen to us or try to suppress a bad memory 16:35 How to face your issues and reconceptualize them using mind management 19:00 Why we need to connect with others and share what we are going through to get context and perspective 28:22 Techniques to deal with negative experiences in the moment when everything seems too much 30:40 Why we cannot change or heal what we are not aware of 32:05 How to compartmentalize toxic memories and experiences so that you can calm down and cope in the moment ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: -Visit my website at https://drleaf.com for more free resources Follow me on social media for daily mental health tips & strategies: -Instagram: @drcarolineleaf: https://www.instagram.com/drcarolineleaf/- -Facebook: Dr. Caroline Leaf: https://www.facebook.com/drleaf -Twitter: @drcarolineleaf: https://twitter.com/DrCarolineLeaf -Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/drcarolineleaf If you enjoyed this episode please leave a 5 review on iTunes, Google Play, or wherever you are listening! And don't forget to subscribe and share this podcast with friends and family! I love seeing your posts on social media! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.