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EPISODE · Nov 17, 2025 · 1H 19M

Why Women Lose Desire Faster in Marriage | Esther Perel

from The School of Greatness · host Lewis Howes, Esther Perel

Esther Perel reveals why modern relationships demand more from us than any generation in history, and why that's actually a gift. Growing up as the child of Holocaust survivors taught her that nothing is permanent, and that dread shaped her life's work around helping people create meaningful connections. She explains why women get bored with monogamy faster than men, why desire dies when you stop taking risks, and why the very things that attract you to someone become the source of your biggest conflicts later. You'll walk away understanding that great relationships aren't about finding the perfect person, they're about choosing someone and deciding to show up differently every day.Esther’s books:Mating in CaptivityThe State of AffairsIn this episode you will:Discover why caretaking is one of the most powerful anti-aphrodisiacs in long-term relationships and what to do insteadUnderstand why committed sex must be premeditated and how waiting for spontaneity guarantees you'll stay stuck in the same patternsLearn why you don't find your partner, you choose them, and how this shift in perspective changes everything about datingBreak through the myth that divorce equals failure and why some 20-year marriages are massive successes even when they endMaster the difference between people you can love and people you can make a life with, and why confusing the two destroys relationshipsFor more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1851For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:Baya Voce pt. 1 – greatness.lnk.to/1836SCMatthew Hussey  – greatness.lnk.to/1782SCLewis Howes [SOLO] – greatness.lnk.to/1834SC Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This conversation will change how you think about love, desire, and what it means to stay connected to one person for decades. You'll discover why the way we've been taught to do relationships is setting us up to fail, and what you can do differently starting today.

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