Why You Aren’t Entitled to Sex in Your Marriage (and How to Actually Build Desire)

The show must go on! Despite a massive headache and being on the verge of tears from the sheer exhaustion of prepping for a five-week move, Lauren sits down with Trey to tackle a raw, urgent conversation sparked by the dark side of the internet.A recent clip from the show, unpacking why pity sex and obligation sex destroy intimacy, went viral, landing squarely in a toxic corner of the international "manosphere." Lauren pulls back the curtain on the thousands of aggressive comments demanding that married women simply "give" their husbands bodies on demand.Trey and Lauren don't shy away from the noise. Instead, they use it to break down the sheer laziness of marital entitlement.Key Takeaways:Lauren addresses the intense pushback from a specific subset of online critics attacking her professional work. She breaks down why these negative comments are actually a gift, propelling the vital message of mutual desire and female erotic sovereignty right into the hands of the couples who need it most.Trey directly challenges the patriarchal script that states marriage equals unconditional bodily access. He introduces a sobering truth: in a conscious, modern partnership, you aren't entitled to your partner's body or labor; you are only ever entitled to leave if the dynamic no longer serves you.Lauren clears the air by pointing out that entitlement isn't gender-exclusive. She calls out the "honey-do list" phenomenon and the shadow side of straight dynamics where women feel entitled to a man’s physical or financial labor simply because of a marital title.When your relationship feels lacking or stuck in a transactional slump, how do you fix it? Lauren reveals the ultimate relational tool: Radical Curiosity. She issues a challenge to the audience to ask their partner a deep question about their contentment, and then force themselves to ask two more curious questions before formatting a response.If your relationship has devolved into transactional demands, scorekeeping, or quiet resentment, it is time to throw out the old playbook.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn’t, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.