Why You Can’t Fully Relax During Sex (It’s Not What You Think)

Why does sex sometimes feel disconnected… even when you care about the person?In Part 2 of this conversation, we go deeper into the connection between anxiety, shame, and intimacy—and how these patterns quietly shape your experience in relationships.I’m joined again by Elana Auerbach, author of The Sure Thing, and we explore the layers most people avoid: the conditioning around sex, the pressure to perform, and the internal narratives that make it hard to fully relax and be present.If you’ve ever felt in your head during intimacy, struggled to let go, or questioned why something felt “off” even when everything seemed right—this episode will open your eyes.In this episode:How shame impacts your ability to experience intimacyThe link between anxiety and disconnection during sexConditioning and beliefs that shape your relationship with intimacyWhy safety—not performance—is the foundation of connectionHow to start recognizing and shifting these patternsThis is the deeper layer of the conversation.If you haven’t listened to Part 1, start there—this builds on everything we uncovered about anxiety, attraction, and relationship signals.Wellness to Greatness: Anxiety Support for WomenHelping you understand your signals, build resilience, and create calm from the inside out.____Find Elana Auerbach:Website: ⁠https://surethingexperiment.com/⁠FB: ⁠facebook.com/ElanaAuerbachAuthor⁠IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/elana.auerbach/⁠ A free guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire, visit:⁠https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-self⁠______Find Janelle Plamondon:Instagram: ⁠@wellnesstogreatness⁠Youtube: ⁠@WellnessToGreatness⁠⁠www.wellnesstogreatness.ca