Why You Care So Much What Other People Think (And How to Finally Stop)

New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. You know you shouldn't care what other people think. You've probably told yourself that a hundred times. And yet — you still rearrange your behavior for people whose opinions you don't even fully respect. You do the laundry because of some imaginary judge. You say yes when you mean no. You replay comments for days. You hold back your real opinion in a room full of people. Today, JoAnn gets into why this happens, what you can actually do about it, and shares a very personal story about a professional decision she was terrified to make — and what the response taught her about who she does and doesn't want in her life. In this episode: The thought distortion that's behind almost every fear of judgment — and how to catch yourself doing it Why "people will judge me" is a generalization, and the one question that breaks it open How to name the actual person you're afraid of — and then ask whether you even respect their opinion What happened when JoAnn canceled an interview she knew wasn't right for her listeners (and the response that confirmed she made the right call) Why walking on eggshells in relationships quietly erodes your confidence — and what happens when you stop First, second, and third person perspective: a simple framework for separating what actually happened from the story you're telling yourself about it Why not being liked is not your failure — it's a mismatch, and the difference matters How to find your actual people by being yourself clearly enough that the wrong ones self-select out You're going to finish this episode knowing exactly who you've been trying to impress — and whether they've actually earned that kind of real estate in your head. If you're listening on Spotify, hit the Follow button right now — it's the best way to make sure you never miss an episode and it helps me reach more moms like you. Remember: the best mom is a happy mom. Take care of you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices