Why You Don’t Actually Want What You Think You Want EP 68

In this episode, I explore the ideas from Wanting by Luke Burgis  and why so many of us feel restless, dissatisfied, or perpetually chasing “the next thing,” even when our lives look good on paper.I look at the concept of borrowed desire (mimesis), the difference between thin and thick desires, and how stress and nervous system dysregulation make it nearly impossible to know what we truly want.This episode is especially for women who:feel stuck or disoriented after quitting drinkingare high-achievers who’ve done “everything right” but still feel unfulfillednotice themselves chasing relief instead of meaningwant a slower, more honest relationship with desireWe also explore scapegoating, why removing habits or people doesn’t always bring peace, and how creating safety in the nervous system is often the missing step in clarity, alignment, and real change.If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why does nothing I want ever feel like enough?” — this conversation will meet you there.Looking for somewhere to have conversations like this?Every Wednesday at 8 PM EST, I host a free community call for women who are sober, alcohol-free, or questioning their relationship with alcohol. We talk about the stuff that comes with choosing to live differently... the rebuilding, the relationships, the identity shifts, the hard days, and figuring out what you actually want your life to look like now.You don't need to have it all figured out, and you don't need to be a certain number of days, months or years alcohol-free. Come listen, share, connect, and be around other women who get it.Join us for free → https://thedeliberateone.com/the-deliberate-community🔁 Ongoing support: The Deliberate Practice — a steady rhythm of nervous system regulation, breathwork, and integration.Explore everything at thedeliberateone.com Connect on Instagram @thedeliberateoneIf this episode supported you, you can buy me a coffee here