Why You Don’t Feel Safe Being Yourself

Dr. Tammy Oluyori is a Registered Counselling Psychologist and therapist passionate about helping people understand themselves, heal emotional patterns, and move forward with confidence, purpose, and renewed hope. Her approach is compassionate, collaborative, and evidence-based, supporting clients to explore the roots of their struggles, break free from inner conflicts, and create a life that feels more balanced, purposeful, and aligned with their values.Connect with Dr. TammyWebsite: www.drtammyoluori.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.tammy.oluyoriEbook: Staying Rooted (https://drtammyoluyori.com/staying-rooted/)00:00 The Journey to Self-Compassion03:36 Understanding Compassion: Definition and Importance06:34 The Complexity of Suffering and Compassion09:38 Navigating Pain and Self-Perception12:27 The Role of Safety in Compassion15:32 Identifying Pain vs. Self-Talk18:36 The Challenge of Embracing Peace21:28 The Impact of Competition and Achievement on Self-Worth27:18 The Role of Shame in Performance30:35 Childhood Experiences and Emotional Neglect33:29 Understanding Shame: Protection or Prison?38:34 Challenging Shame and Embracing Opportunities43:42 Connection, Values, and Overcoming Shame50:48 Identifying Personal Values and Authenticity59:26 Discovering Your True Self01:01:59 The Power of Thoughts and Feelings01:05:32 Tracking Emotions and Finding Safety01:08:35 The Importance of Connection and Authenticity01:12:46 Navigating Distractions and Inner Wisdom01:16:40 Creating a Safe Mental Space01:21:51 Curiosity Over Judgment01:29:08 The Power of Curiosity01:31:09 Understanding Emotional Regulation01:36:09 The Complexity of Emotions01:41:04 Radical Acceptance of Emotions01:47:26 Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Suppression01:51:57 Chasing the Impossible