Why You Feel “Behind” and What To Do About It

When you don’t feel like you belong, you start to shrink. Sometimes it’s obvious — biting your tongue in a meeting, agreeing to things you don’t want, saying “I’m fine” when you’re not. Other times it’s subtle — the way you downplay your achievements, the way you soften your edges so you’ll still be invited in. Coming back to London after time away brought this into sharp focus for me. Suddenly I was surrounded by people making huge money… and I felt behind. That old contraction showed up, the same one I’d felt when I was single and watching friends pair off, when I told myself I didn’t quite fit in the group anymore. In this episode, we explore: why moments of “I’m behind” often have nothing to do with money or dating, and everything to do with worth; how our nervous system shapes whether we feel safe to belong; the quiet cost of contorting ourselves to fit in — in work, in love, in life; and what it means to come into right relationship with money, love, and most importantly, yourself. This is for you if you’ve ever compared your salary, relationship status, or life milestones… and felt the sting of “not enough.” → Come say hi on Instagram: @lucy__maeve → Learn more about 1:1 coaching