Why You Keep Ending Up in the Same Relationship

Send us Fan Mail"Why do I keep ending up in the same relationship?"In this episode of Alison Answers, Alison explores why we can keep repeating the same dating and relationship patterns, even when the names and faces change.This conversation is not about blame. It is about awareness.Alison breaks down how identity, emotional programming, and familiar feelings can shape who we choose, what we tolerate, and why certain relationship patterns keep showing up again and again.If you’ve ever wondered why you keep attracting the same kind of person, why healthy love can feel unfamiliar, or why you find yourself people-pleasing, over-explaining, rescuing, chasing, or settling, this episode will help you look at the pattern with more honesty and compassion.Because the deeper question is not always, “Why does this keep happening to me?”Sometimes it is, “What version of me keeps choosing this?”In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize repeated relationship patterns, understand what your behavior may be pointing to, and begin asking the questions that help you choose from a healthier version of yourself.Watch or listen to the full episode of Alison Answers now.In this episode:00:00 Why do I keep ending up in the same relationship?02:28 Identity, pattern recognition, and emotional programming05:51 Looking at the pattern instead of just the person07:18 The feelings you keep repeating in relationships10:23 Why familiar does not always mean healthy16:05 When calm feels boring and chaos feels like love21:14 How identity shapes what you tolerate24:41 Why awareness is only the first step27:24 Who do I need to become to choose differently?33:08 Questions to ask yourself about love and identity36:13 Taking responsibility for your relationshipsConnect with Alison:Instagram: @alisonanswers | @lagercounselingWebsite: LagerCounseling.comYouTube: Alison AnswersFacebook: Alison Lager Lcsw CasacPurchase Alison’s book: “The Wake Up Call”Alison Answers Facebook Group: Join HEREWomen of Excellence FB group: Join HERE⚠️ Crisis Resources:Lager Counseling ServicesCall: 516-221-2123Text: (914) 363-0381Wantagh: 3408 Park Ave. Wantagh, NY 11793988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential)Call or text 988 | Visit 988lifeline.org