Why You Keep Getting the Ick

If you're someone who keeps getting the ick — even when the person seems kind, emotionally available, and “right on paper” — this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I’m exploring: why the ick can feel like truth but is often just protection, how our nervous system confuses safety with boredom, the very personal moment I realised the ick wasn’t about them — it was about my fear, what changed when I did a year-long trauma-informed coaching training in sex, love, and relationships, and how we unconsciously push away the thing we’re craving most: real intimacy. This is especially for the women who’ve done a lot of inner work — the therapy, the books, the healing. You’re self-aware. You know your patterns. But you still find yourself spiralling when someone nice shows up… and wondering, “Why do I always do this?” You're not broken. You’re just wired for something that once felt safer than love. Let’s unpack what the ick is really telling you — and how to start trusting something deeper. Send it to your friend who’s dating in the trenches, or share it on IG and tag me. You never know who’s quietly asking themselves: “Why do I always get the ick?”. → Follow me on Instagram: @lucy__maeve → Learn more about 1:1 coaching → FREE DOWNLOAD: 3-Part Audio Series: Done with Almost — For the woman who’s done the work… but still ends up alone.