Why You Keep Sabotaging Yourself

"I want to go for my goal and lose weight but... "This isn't the right season." "I should focus on my health first." "Once things calm down at work." In this episode, I'm talking about the four sneaky ways fear shows up and tries to pass itself off as good judgment. I share the story of a thermostat quietly running in the background of your brain, keeping you exactly as small as it thinks is safe. And I walk through the same four step process my own coach used with me when I got nervous before speaking to a crowd of five hundred people. This one goes deep on why staying stuck can feel so much safer than growing, even when growing is what you actually want. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why your brain hands you a "reasonable" excuse instead of just admitting you're scared The four fear patterns behind almost every stuck moment (thank you, Gay Hendricks) A simple four step process for moving through fear instead of around it Why trying to force your feelings to settle usually makes things worse What it means to stop handing fear the pen on your own story Key Takeaway Fear rarely shows up announcing itself. It shows up sounding like common sense. But underneath almost every "not right now," there's an old, understandable reason your brain thinks staying small keeps you safe. You don't have to argue with that voice or wait for it to disappear. You just have to stop handing it the pen every time it asks for it. Listen If You've Ever Thought... "I'll start when things settle down." "Maybe this just isn't the right time for me." "Why do I always talk myself out of things I actually want?" "I know what to do, so why can't I just do it?" Quote credits: Quote from A Return to Love — Marianne Williamson (1992)   Want More? If this episode resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe to The Confident Body Podcast. Every week we talk about the mental and emotional side of weight loss, the part that diets never cover. We cover things like sustainable weight loss, emotional eating, self-trust around food, and how to break free from diet rules that have never worked long term. Because the goal isn't just to lose the weight. It's to become someone who knows how to keep it off and feel good while doing it. Leave a review if this episode helped you. It only takes thirty seconds and it helps other women find the show.   Get the book my new book LIGHT: The New Psychology of Weight Loss   Check out my new Substack page! You’ll get bonus articles, inspiration, and wisdom. Plus some extra goodies I’ve got rolled up my sleeve. Check it out at: https://substack.com/@coachlizziemerritt   PS: Ever had that moment when you just WANT it?  Your brain doesn’t care if you’re hungry. It just tastes SO good and you just want it.  If that’s you, then download the guide I JUST WANT IT. IT TASTES SO GOOD at: confidentbody.coach/wantit   Also, check out my first book: You Are A Miracle