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EPISODE · Jun 23, 2026 · 38 MIN

Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging — Even When You Know Better

from We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling · host Darcy Sterling

If issues in your relationships keep pulling you away from the choices you know are better for you, this episode is for you.You know what it costs.You know you will regret it.And somehow, you still do it again.In this episode, Dr. Darcy Sterling is joined by Dr. Rachel Goldman for a conversation about self-sabotage, behavior change, self-trust, people-pleasing, boundaries, avoidance, and why insight alone is rarely enough to interrupt a pattern.You may hear yourself in this episode if:• You keep breaking promises you made to yourself• You know the behavior is not working, but still cannot stop in the moment• Being nice, flexible, or “easy” keeps costing you more than you admit• The hardest part is not just the behavior — it is what it does to your self-trust afterBecause the part of you that keeps winningmay be solving somethingyou still do not know how to solve differently.Listen to Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging — Even When You Know Better and follow We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling for more conversations on relationships, behavior change, and emotional patterns.REFERENCES/RESOURCES⁠www.alternativescounseling.com⁠www.drrachelnyc.comWhen Life Happens: The Mindset Shift You Need to Manage Stress, Build Confidence, and Break Free. CREDITS“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.  ⁠DISCLAIMER⁠⁠Instagram:@drdarcysterling ⁠⁠Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling⁠⁠Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  ⁠X⁠:@DrDarcySterling   ⁠⁠YouTube:@DarcySterling   ⁠⁠Threads:@drdarcysterling⁠⁠Watch this episode here on YouTube. ⁠

If issues in your relationships keep pulling you away from the choices you know are better for you, this episode is for you.You know what it costs.You know you will regret it.And somehow, you still do it again.In this episode, Dr. Darcy Sterling is joined by Dr. Rachel Goldman for a conversation about self-sabotage, behavior change, self-trust, people-pleasing, boundaries, avoidance, and why insight alone is rarely enough to interrupt a pattern.You may hear yourself in this episode if:• You keep breaking promises you made to yourself• You know the behavior is not working, but still cannot stop in the moment• Being nice, flexible, or “easy” keeps costing you more than you admit• The hardest part is not just the behavior — it is what it does to your self-trust afterBecause the part of you that keeps winningmay be solving somethingyou still do not know how to solve differently.Listen to Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging — Even When You Know Better and follow We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling for more conversations on relationships, behavior change, and emotional patterns.REFERENCES/RESOURCES⁠www.alternativescounseling.com⁠www.drrachelnyc.comWhen Life Happens: The Mindset Shift You Need to Manage Stress, Build Confidence, and Break Free. CREDITS“We Need To Talk With Dr. Darcy Sterling” is a Sterling Standard Production. Editing and sound engineering by Bart Migal. Our theme music is by Trending Music. Special thanks to Amanda Cristiani and Robyn Jaenchen.  ⁠DISCLAIMER⁠⁠Instagram:@drdarcysterling ⁠⁠Facebook:Dr.Darcy Sterling⁠⁠Tik Tok:@doctordarcysterling  ⁠X⁠:@DrDarcySterling   ⁠⁠YouTube:@DarcySterling   ⁠⁠Threads:@drdarcysterling⁠⁠Watch this episode here on YouTube. ⁠

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