Why You Overthink, People-Please, and Fear Abandonment: Understanding C-PTSD with Dr. Arielle Schwartz

Why You Overthink, People-Please, and Fear Abandonment Understanding C-PTSD with Dr. Arielle Schwartz If you have ever replayed conversations in your head, worried you said the wrong thing, people pleased even when it cost you, or felt a deep fear of being abandoned, this episode is for you 🤍 In this conversation, we explore why these patterns do not mean you are broken and how they are often rooted in complex trauma or C-PTSD. I am joined by Dr. Arielle Schwartz, a licensed clinical psychologist, certified complex trauma professional, EMDR Consultant, and Kripalu yoga teacher. She is an internationally sought after speaker, a leading voice in trauma recovery, and the author of seven books including The Complex PTSD Workbook, EMDR Therapy and Somatic Psychology, The Post-Traumumatic Growth Guidebook, and Applied Polyvagal Theory in Yoga. Arielle also developed Resilience Informed Therapy, an integrative and trauma informed approach that centers nervous system safety and resilience, helping people heal without feeling pathologized or too much. Together, we unpack why overthinking, people pleasing, and fear of abandonment live in the body and what actually helps when insight alone is not enough. In this episode, we explore Why overthinking is so common in relationships and what it is really trying to protect Why people who fear abandonment can feel calm when alone but anxious or dysregulated in closeness Whether attachment equals survival even in adulthood Why reassurance, logic, and positive thinking often do not calm these fears What is usually missing when insight and self help have not been enough Where beliefs like I am too needy, too emotional, or too much often come from What begins to change when these patterns are viewed through a nervous system and trauma informed lens How Resilience Informed Therapy supports healing in a way that feels empowering rather than pathologizing We covered what is one gentle first step toward building more safety in the body One truth to hold onto the next time activation shows up This is a grounding and compassionate conversation for anyone who is tired of trying to fix themselves and is ready to understand their patterns with curiosity, safety, and self trust ✨ Connect with Dr. Arielle Schwartz here: https://drarielleschwartz.com/ If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation. I have 4 January spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved. When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn. Book your free discovery call here to see if we're a good fit to work together: https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call Connect with Valerie on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/