Why You Swing Between Too Nice and Too Strict With Your Kids (And How to Finally Stop)

Send us Fan MailHas anyone ever told you that you are too soft with your kids? And is there a part of you that agrees, but you refuse to go the other direction because you do not want your children growing up scared of you?So you swing. Nice. Then strict. Then guilty. Then nice again.In this episode of the Zen Supermom podcast, Alena explains exactly why this pattern happens, why willpower and parenting books will never fix it, and what mental fitness actually is and why it is the only thing that gets you out of the swing for good.What you will learn in this episode:Why you swing between too nice and too strict and why it is a generational autopilot not a personal failingThe two most common childhood patterns that create this swing in adulthoodWhy parenting scripts fail because they assume you are already calm when you need to use themWhy staying calm on the outside while locking anger inside is more dangerous than yelling according to Dr Gabor Mate and Dr Joe DispenzaWhat mental fitness is and why it works in seconds rather than requiring an hour of yogaThe third way between too nice and too strict and how to actually feel it in your nervous systemWhy your daughter is wiring everything she watches you do into her identity every single dayHow to apply to be coached live on the Zen Supermom podcastNext step: join Alena live in the free Mommy Tantrum Masterclass: https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-masterclassApply to be coached live on the podcast: https://form.jotform.com/261413211817347Free Mommy Tantrum Masterclass: https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-masterclass Website: alenagomesrodrigues.com Instagram: @alenagomesrodrigues Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/ZenSupermom Book — I Yelled I Cried I Healed: https://www.amazon.com/Yelled-Cried-Healed-Supermom-Tantrums-ebook/dp/B0FNS4QRNCTopics: too nice too strict parenting, generational autopilot, parenting scripts don't work, calm parenting, mental fitness for moms, suppressed anger, Dr Gabor Mate, people pleasing mom, nervous system parenting, mommy tantrum, zen supermom podcast.Support the show