Why Your Brain Won’t Shut Up When You’re Dating (And How Human Design Can Help You Trust Yourself Again) with Shelby Alkire

"Trust your feelings & verify."Episode 79: Overthinking, Dating & Decision-Making with Shelby AlkireIn this episode of Return, Caitlan Siegenthaler sits down with Shelby Alkire to unpack the tangled web of overthinking in dating and relationships. From second-guessing every text to carrying the weight of past wounds, they explore how trauma, social media, and self-doubt shape how we show up in love. They also dive into Human Design as a powerful tool for understanding your decision-making style—especially if you have emotional authority—and how to make more aligned, self-trusting choices in relationships. This conversation is equal parts validating and empowering for anyone who’s ever felt stuck in their head when it comes to matters of the heart.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why overthinking feels so familiar in datingHow trauma and self-doubt drive patterns of over-analysisThe role social media plays in distorting our relationship expectationsHow to balance intentionality with fun when datingHow Human Design supports clearer, more confident decision-makingThe difference between emotional, sacral, splenic, and self-projected authorityWhy low-stakes decision-making practice is a game changerWhat it means to trust yourself in love💌 Sign up for the July 14th Dating Workshop with Caitlan & Shelby:⁠https://enchanting-shadow-994.myflodesk.com/nk15j3ymwt⁠Trust yourself and have great dates! Chapters:02:57 – Understanding Overthinking Patterns06:10 – The Divergence of Dating Paths08:57 – Balancing Intentionality and Fun11:58 – The Impact of Social Media14:53 – Human Design & Overthinking17:46 – The Role of Trauma in Dating21:00 – Recognizing Relationship Patterns23:55 – Self-Doubt & Decision Paralysis27:00 – Human Design in Practice29:20 – How Decision-Making Authority Works36:16 – Exploring Authority Types44:54 – Applying Human Design to Relationships51:18 – Building Trust Through Daily PracticeConnect with Shelby: Shelby's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelbychantilly/Shelby's Website:https://shelbychantilly.com/aboutWant to learn how to trust yourself?Sign up for Caitlan's free podcast called Next Level Decisions: https://enchanting-shadow-994.myflodesk.com/nextlevelpodIf this episode resonated, share it with someone who’s overthinking their love life, too. Don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe—every bit helps spread the word. And remember: your clarity is already within you. Let’s help you trust it. ✨Support the showProduced by Caitlan SiegenthalerCover Art by Kiara OparaIf you enjoyed this episode, share it with a friend, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me. And if you really loved it, the best thank-you is a written review on Apple Podcasts or a comment on Spotify. That is a beautiful energetic exchange for Caitlan creating the show.