Why Your Kids Don’t Listen—and What to Do About It

Why Your Kids Don’t Listen—and What to Do About It Trust: The Forgotten Weapon of Fatherhood In this episode of The Patriarchy Podcast, Pastor Joseph Spurgeon sits down with elder, father, and foster dad Aaron Sabie to talk about one of the most overlooked pillars of fatherhood: trust. Why don’t your kids listen? It’s not because you’re not loud enough. It’s because they don’t trust you. We dive deep into what causes that breakdown, how to fix it, and why real leadership starts long before you open your mouth. Aaron shares powerful stories from his time as a foster father—raising broken children and watching them transform through consistent, fatherly care. You’ll also hear about: Why most dads lose their kids’ hearts What a trustworthy father actually looks like The role of discipline, conscience, and consistency Why trust isn’t earned through volume, but through mission and follow-through Fathers, if you want to raise sons and daughters who follow—not just obey—you need this episode. Chapters & Timestamps 00:00 – Cold Open: Why your kids don’t listen 02:01 – Welcome & Episode Overview 04:15 – Interview Begins: Meet Aaron Sabie 07:30 – The Foster Experience: Rebuilding Trust from the Ground Up 14:45 – What Trust Looks Like in Daily Discipline 21:20 – Building a Family Identity & Why Mission Matters 27:00 – Proactive vs Reactive Parenting 31:50 – Creating a Moral Warehouse: Shaping the Conscience 36:40 – Restrictive vs Permissive Parenting Pitfalls 43:25 – How Trust Shapes Teenagers 47:10 – Why Follow-Through Is Everything 50:40 – Couch Time, Family Order, and Marital Unity 56:15 – Encouragement to Fathers: Build Trust Now 1:00:00 – Final Thoughts & Call to Action About the Show The Patriarchy Podcast features in-depth conversations on faith, culture, theology, and leadership. Each episode equips Christians to live boldly and biblically in an age of compromise—exploring the challenges and opportunities of standing firm for truth in the modern world. Support the Mission We’re still raising funds to expand Sovereign King Academy and keep tuition affordable for families. Want to invest in the future of Christ’s Kingdom? Give here: https://sovereignkingacademy.com Connect with The Patriarchy Podcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePatriarchyPodcast Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/58tm5zjz Apple Podcasts: https://tinyurl.com/f3ruzrsa Website & All Links: https://linktr.ee/thepatriarchypodcast Follow Joseph Spurgeon: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePatriarchyPodcast X/Twitter: https://x.com/PatriarchyPod Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepatriarchypodcast Gab: https://gab.com/thepatriarchypodcast Sponsored By Steadfast Cigars – For men who reject passivity and take dominion Order: https://steadfastcigars.com/ Fit Father Project – Reclaim discipline and strength for life Start: https://secure.fitfatherproject.com/a/transformation/4539 Books by Joseph Spurgeon: It’s Good to Be a Boy – https://a.co/d/7zpEh5D It’s Good to Be a Girl – https://a.co/d/6VlBTzS Final Call to Action Subscribe for more conversations that sharpen men for battle. Turn on notifications so you never miss an episode. Like and share to support biblical masculinity.