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EPISODE · Feb 3, 2026 · 18 MIN

Why Your Spouse May HATE Your Apology

from Young Black Married Christian · host LaShaude and Dorianna James

https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/In this episode, you will learn the 3-step "apology system" that does more than just stop the fighting—it actually "disarms" your spouse and turns your biggest arguments into "bouquets of roses." If you’ve ever felt like your apologies don't get very far, you cannot afford to miss the advice at 7:25 regarding the one thing that matters more than words.…0:00 – IntroductionWelcome to the Young Black Married Christian podcast with Lashaud and Doriana James.1:42 – Biblical Foundation for ReconciliationA look at Matthew 5:23 and why God prioritizes reconciliation over religious offerings.2:44 – Tip 1: The Speed of Your ApologyWhy apologizing slowly is often rooted in pride and how "dead space" fuels arguments.4:03 – Tip 2: Explaining the ImpactThe power of articulating your spouse’s feelings to disarm conflict.5:04 – Real-Life Example: Sleep Deprivation and IrritabilityLashaud and Doriana share a personal story about a recent disagreement and how they navigated it.7:25 – Tip 3: The Plan for Changed BehaviorWhy the best apology is a strategy for change, referencing Ephesians 4:28.9:05 – Public vs. Private ApologiesWhy an apology should be as public as the offense.10:55 – Thorns vs. RosesHow to shift your perspective to see growth after a disagreement.12:00 – The Phenomenal Family Inner CircleDetails on how to access the Marriage MBA, budgeting courses, and more.16:20 – Final Encouragement and ClosingA prophetic word of encouragement for your day and marriage.Key TakeawaysDon't Let the Sun Go Down: Speed is essential to prevent pride from taking root.Validate Their Pain: When you explain how you affected your spouse, they no longer have to fight to make you understand.Actions Speak Louder: A plan for different behavior in the future is what makes an apology trustworthy.Never Forget.... The people who want the best in their marriage... Invest in their marriage.

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