Why Your Tears Are Doing More Than You Think

“I’m sorry,” she said, reaching for the tissue box. “I didn’t mean to cry.”I hear this in almost every session. Clients apologizing for their tears. As if grief should be neat and dry. As if showing emotion is something to be embarrassed about.But here’s what I always tell them: Please don’t apologize. This is exactly what’s supposed to happen.When I see tears in a session, I don’t see weakness or loss of control. I see processing. I see grief moving through someone instead of staying stuck inside them. Tears are one of the clearest signs that healing work is happening.Yet so many people fight them. They blink hard. Hold their breath. Push the wave back down. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit grief2growth.substack.com/subscribe