WILD MONOGAMY

WILD MONOGAMY! Live! your life… with MALI and JOE WILD MONOGAMY To understand the concept of “Wild Monogamy,” one must first look at the traditional framework of the relationship. Monogamy is most commonly defined as a form of relationship where an individual has only one partner at a time, often characterized by emotional and sexual exclusivity. While this is the bedrock for many couples, the routine of long-term partnership can sometimes lead to a “tame” or predictable dynamic. This is exactly where guests Mali and Joe, featured on The Open Nesters podcast, suggest we start shaking things up to rediscover the electricity of the early days. We explore the idea that staying committed to one person doesn’t have to mean sacrificing passion or adventure. Mali and Joe, authors of The Soulmate Experience, share their journey of nearly two decades, proving that erotic connection can actually intensify over time. Their philosophy centers on the idea that monogamy isn’t a restrictive cage, but rather a safe container within which partners can be as “wild” and expressive as they choose to be. One of the most moving stories shared in the episode involves the struggle with aging bodies—a common hurdle for “open nesters” over 60. Mali describes the vulnerability of dealing with a sagging or changing physique, only for her partner Joe to respond by photographing her from every angle. By seeing her body through his eyes—as a work of art, wet and dry, inside and out—she was able to shed her insecurities. This “wild” act of radical acceptance is a core pillar of their message: intimacy thrives when we stop hiding and start showing up fully. The episode explains that “Wild Monogamy” is about cultivating erotic intimacy to keep desire alive without necessarily looking outside the relationship. It’s the “monogamous” version of a play party—where you might go to a spicy event but choose to only play with your partner. By bringing that level of intentionality, fantasy, and novelty back into the bedroom, couples can bypass the boredom that often plagues long-term unions. Mali and Joe emphasize that this doesn’t happen by accident. It requires a continuous conversation about love, sex, and connection. They’ve dedicated their lives to coaching couples on how to move past the jealousy, inhibition, and shame that often tangle up our sexuality. For them, “wildness” is a practice of being present and adventurous within the safety of your primary bond, ensuring that the “magical feeling” of dating never truly ends. For those in the “Act III” of their lives—the empty nesters—this message is particularly resonant. Tessa and Amir highlight that this stage of life is an opportunity for a “new nesting” experience. It’s a time to ask what you need to open up in your life, your body, and your spirit. Whether it’s through body movement, sensory exploration, or deepening your erotic connection, the goal is to live with an open heart and a sense of play. Ultimately, “Wild Monogamy” serves as a reminder that your primary relationship can be the greatest adventure of your life. By choosing to be “wild” with one another, couples can transform a decades-old partnership into a vibrant, ever-evolving romance. If you’re looking to reignite that spark and move beyond the “empty” in empty nesting, this episode offers a roadmap for keeping the fire burning bright through every season of life. About Tessa Tessa Krone is the engine behind and the face of The Open Nesters. Tessa holds an MA in Consciousness Studies and is a speaker, coach, program, and journey facilitator & leader, author, and, of course, Podcaster. Her offerings are based on her mission to help people open to their most self-expressed, loving selves. Tessa’s specialties include embodiment from all the senses and elements of our inner and outer lives, ranging from mindfulness, dance, play, and sensory exploration in nature. If she had one superpower, it would be to help people, especially as they age, to live more open-hearted lives. Please email Tessa to make a connection. And visit her page here on the Open Nesters Website. If you like, please answer the question: What do you need to OPEN your NEST? In your LIFE. In your BODY. In your SPIRIT. Do you need MORE… Adventure  Freedom of Expression  Exploration and Fun  Body Movement  New circles of friends  Deep love relationships