Will it be like the Olympics with medals?

Am I being disobedient to God if I go to a church that has women pastors? Are we judged by what we did with the opportunities God gave us? How many judgments are there? What will it be like for Christians? I can’t find a grace-focused church! What should I do? Why do I have such a problem with profanity? What does God think? Were the apostles and the early church especially brave? If so, how?