消极：我如何摆脱消极的想法

How can I remove negative thoughts?Calvin Rosser, Writer | Coach | Trusted by GrandmaNo matter how many hours you spend meditating, reciting positive affirmations, or practicing gratitude, you will still have negative thoughts.The goal is not to eliminate the negative thoughts; it’s to transform your relationship with them.Imagine you spent your weekend grinding away on a big project for your boss. On Monday, when he comes in after lazing on the beach with his family, he makes a rude comment to you. You might think:“Man, he’s such an asshole. Why do I continue to work for this guy?”Fair enough.Perhaps he is an asshole. Perhaps he had a death in the family. Perhaps he is getting pressure from his boss. Perhaps it’s just your perception.It doesn’t matter.You had the thought. And that thought is a seed. You can choose to let that seed grow, or you can decide to destroy it.If you choose to let the seed grow, you will dwell on that negative thought. You might complain to your friends at lunch about your asshole of a boss.And if you dwell on that thought enough, it will turn into a belief.You’ll begin to believe that your boss is an ungrateful twat who is out to get you. You might even start to believe that the whole world is against you despite all the good work and charity that you do.Eventually, those beliefs will turn into deeply-ingrained resentment that will influence your actions. You might become bitter, distant, and cynical. And once that happens, the negativity that you receive and perceive will only grow.Fortunately, you can choose a much better path.Instead of letting the thought grow into a toxic belief that impacts your life negatively over the long-term, you can let that thought go.How you do this will depend on what works for you.You might meditate on the situation. You might go for a short walk. You might hit the gym. You might ask your boss if he meant to say what he said. You might realize that your boss didn’t mean anything personal to you. Or you might decide it’s time to find another job.You have to figure out what works for you.But once you do, life gets a lot easier.Learning to let go of a negative thought before it turns into a negative belief and a negative action will enable you to escape the shackles of cynicism, resentment, and dissatisfaction that imprison too many people in this world.And not only will you feel better, but you’ll also gain the respect of others. People will admire you for your ability to let things go and embrace even the worst of situations with a productive response.And eventually, you will no longer be asking how you can remove negative thoughts from your life.