Yeah, It May Be Them, But It's Also You

Most of us are skilled at telling the story of a conflict from the outside in — what the other person did, how they fell short, where they went wrong. This episode turns that lens around. DrEG3 challenges listeners to hold two truths at the same time: yes, it may be them — and it's also you. Not as self-blame, but as the most honest and empowering place to stand. Because the only part of the story you can actually change is yours. What You'll Hear: Your fingerprints are on this too. Most conflicts carry fingerprints from both sides. What you brought in — the unspoken expectations, the tolerated patterns, the wounds from somewhere else — shapes the situation long before it breaks down. You are choosing the posture you're taking. The posture you're holding right now is a choice. Closed off, dug in, waiting for them to go first — those aren't just feelings. They're positions you're actively maintaining. And sometimes, the posture is what's keeping the situation frozen. Owning your part is what breaks the pattern. Patterns don't break themselves. When the same conflict shows up across different relationships and different seasons, that's information. Owning your part — honestly, not performatively — is what changes the trajectory.  Favorite Line "You can be right and still be holding a posture that's costing you more than it's protecting you."  Reflection Question  Is there a conflict in your life right now where you've been telling the story almost entirely about what the other person did — and what happens when you ask: what did I bring to this?  Final Thought Accountability isn't the same as blame. Looking at your own role doesn't mean letting anyone off the hook — it means reclaiming the power you've been handing over every time you tell a story where you have no part in it. The honest version of the story is harder. It's also the one that actually moves you forward. And, as always, I love you much!   If today's episode is still sitting with you — that feeling that there's more in you than what's currently showing up — DrEG3 works one on one with a small number of people who are ready to get clear, get bold, and move with real purpose.  Email directly: [email protected]