You Are Always The Main Character: Agreements, Perspectives, and Impeccability

Send us Fan MailHilary Crowley, host of "The Good Energy Healing Show," delves into Don Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements,” a book she’s studying with her "Good Energy Healing Club." Crowley highlights that "agreements" represent the countless beliefs and opinions that shape our reality, often "domesticating" us. She encourages listeners to identify these agreements, good or bad, in their own "dream of the mind."The first agreement, "Be Impeccable with Your Word," means living without harming yourself, which inherently prevents harming others. This applies not only to spoken words but to every thought, as we live in a world of symbols and assigned meanings.Crowley then connects this to the fourth agreement, "Always Do Your Best," explaining it's about continuous practice and striving. The opposite of doing your best isn't doing your worst, but simply doing what’s easiest, falling back into old patterns.The second agreement, "Don't Take Anything Personally," is explored through the lens that everyone is the main character in their own story. This perspective, coupled with listening actively (a concept from Ruiz's "Fifth Agreement"), helps us avoid personalizing others' actions.Finally, "Don't Make Assumptions" encourages curiosity. Crowley explains that we make assumptions to feel safe, even if the answers are incorrect. She advocates for assuming others are doing their best, a practice that fosters respect.Crowley shares a personal example of worrying about baby loons, realizing she was overlaying false agreements onto their lives. She challenges listeners to find their own beautiful, personal "agreement" to add to Ruiz’s four, thereby shedding unserving beliefs. She concludes by promoting her TEDx Talk, "The Unexpected Education of a Foster Mom," urging listeners to adopt a "foster mindset" of nourishing and supporting themselves and others. Video  Deep Research  Canvas  Image GeminiWatch or listen to Hilary's TEDx talk now