You Are In Your Own Way

How can I be successful? I get this question a lot from lawyers when they have a call with us, or a breakthrough session with our office. They assume that what they really need is the tactic, the strategy, the know how. But what most people will encounter when they realize that there's a lot more to building a business than just what you do, in fact, what you do is far less important for the most part than the actual who you become and how you show up. So In this episode I wanted to talk about a couple of strategies and reasons that people are not successful and it involves you being in your own way.  Tune in now to learn more! In this episode we discuss: How the fear of failure is commonly learned at an early age. The different ways fear of failure might be taught to us. How the fear of success can be just as difficult to overcome as fear of failure. The dilemmas of becoming successful and the impact it can have on relationships. How these fears impact our goals and business planning. Procrastination and its different manifestations. Allison Bio: Allison C. Williams, Esq., is Founder and Owner of the Williams Law Group, LLC, with offices in Short Hills and Freehold, New Jersey. She is a Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, is Certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey as a Matrimonial Law Attorney and is the first attorney in New Jersey to become Board-Certified by the National Board of Trial Advocacy in the field of Family Law.  Ms. Williams is an accomplished businesswoman. In 2017, the Williams Law Group won the LawFirm500 award, ranking 14th of the fastest growing law firms in the nation, as Ms. Williams grew the firm 581% in three years. Ms. Williams won the Silver Stevie Award for Female Entrepreneur of the Year in 2017.  In 2018, Ms. Williams was voted as NJBIZ’s Top 50 Women in Business and was designated one of the Top 25 Leading Women Entrepreneurs and Business Owners. In 2019, Ms. Williams won the Seminole 100 Award for founding one of the fastest growing companies among graduates of Florida State University. In 2018, Ms. Williams created Law Firm Mentor, a business coaching service for lawyers.  She helps solo and small law firm attorneys grow their business revenues, crush chaos in business and make more money.  Through multi-day intensive business retreats, group and one-to-one coaching, and strategic planning sessions, Ms. Williams advises lawyers on all aspects of creating, sustaining and scaling a law firm business – and specifically, she teaches them the core foundational principles of marketing, sales, personnel management, communications and money management in law firms.  Law Firm Mentor Master Class: https://lawfirmmentor.net/masterclass  Contact Info: Contact Law Firm Mentor: Scheduler: https://meetme.so/LawFirmMentor   Snippets 00:02:57 Fear of failure is a real thing. It's a major thing. And it's something that a lot of people have. And the fear of failure derives often from growing up in an atmosphere where we were not allowed to fail. So I want you to think about how you grew up. OK, everyone grew up a little bit differently, whether you had both parents at home or you were raised by a single parent or perhaps by a grandparent. Whether you had a very singular household, meaning two parents, a kid and a dog, or you had a multi family household where you had cousins and aunts and uncles living in the same dwelling. However you grew up. 00:23:14 And that comes from the fact that when she created a goal, she had someone looking at her and saying, I see more for you than you see for yourself. Right. So that modest goal, we understand where it comes from. It comes from wanting to baby step and having a little bit of fear of what's going to happen when you blow up your whole world and become an eight or nine or 10 or 15 times wage earner. What you're used to having, right. When you start mass producing your wages instead of stair stepping and baby stepping them forward, you can create a lot. And there's often a fear of what's going to happen when you arrive there.