You are Married to the Wrong Person… if you expect them to make you happy

We know that there’s no Prince(ss) Charming, there’s no white horse, and we’re not living in a magical fairytale. Then why, if we all know this in our intelligent adult brains, are we still waiting for someone to sweep us off our feet and keep us Happy Ever After?  Are you in love with falling in love? If you’re perpetually seeking “the one”, you’re looking for your fictional soulmate, not a real person. You read that right. You need to kill your soulmate if you want to be happy.  Today, I’m talking about what happens after you’ve lost that lovin’ feeling. Unlike what we might’ve learned from pop music or romcoms, a sense of complacency-- and maybe even boredom-- in a relationship doesn’t have to be its death knell. We’re exploring the life changing realization that your unhappiness in love may not be because of your partner, but because of you.  In this episode, I talk about how Walt Disney was wrong when he made us think that our happiness is our sweetheart’s job. I point out that your partner is not psychic and why the key to relationship bliss is to change your mind, not your mate. Most importantly, we’ll talk about what to do when that roller coaster of lust pulls into the station and the ride ends, and what you can do to create thrill and fun with the one you are already with.    In This Episode, You Will Learn: You. Are. Normal.  (03:32) How my husband’s brush with death served as my wake up call (04:07) Why I’m calling Disney out for the “Happily Ever After” myth (08:32) Change your mind, not your mate (09:17) Marital misery in action (10:23) Why your unhappiness is your fault...and what to do about it (13:05) Kill the soulmate, save the relationship (15:50) The Soulmate and the Doubt Worm (18:40) “Why” affairs happen - because we all know “how” (23:02) Your weekly LoveByte (26:24)   Q&A: What causes marital misery? Your partner not catering to your every want or whim Why is the soulmate myth dangerous? Because it creates unachievable expectations for your partner What’s the number one cause of sexual or romantic affairs in a committed relationship? Feeling bored with your relationship and longing for passion and excitement  Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book: Buddha's Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy By Cheryl Fraser PhD Let’s Connect! Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Facebook Page   Youtube If you want to rate your relationship, take the Passion Quiz Bio Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.