You Are Not What Happened to You — Here's What to Do With It | EP 318

According to history, my life wasn't supposed to amount to much. Divorced. Single mom raising two babies on my own. And then I lost my two anchors in this world. Any one of those things could have taken me completely out of the game — but what happened to me was never meant to be my whole story. And friend, neither was yours.Friend, I'm getting personal about the years I spent stewing in what happened — and the simple three-step process that helped me step out of it, reclaim my power, and build a life I am genuinely in love with. Because you are not what happened to you. You are the one who gets to decide what you will do with it and what you will build instead.If you have ever felt defined by your past, stuck in the why and the how-could-they, or like the hard things you've been through have quietly staked a claim over your future — this episode is for you.WE’RE TALKING:→ Why we get stuck in the story of what happened — and why it's keeping you from the future you actually want→ The difference between giving something its airtime and giving it all of your time→ Why the hero's journey resonates with all of us and what that means for your own story→ The three-step process to reclaim your power and your position: process and release, reclaim your power, and define your new story→ Why healing is not something you Amazon Prime your way through — and how to grant yourself grace in the process→ How falling in love with yourself opens the door for everything elseTIMESTAMPS:00:00 My Story Isn’t Over01:35 You Decide What’s Next04:21 Grief Changed Everything06:36 Stop Living the Before08:13 Who Will You Become10:14 Create Heaven on Earth11:03 The How Better Questions12:24 Self Love Two Step15:47 Grace Over Timelines16:45 Write Your New Story19:03 Final EncouragementTHE SELF LOVE 2-STEP REMIXKnowing is one thing — but we don't just talk about it around here, we ‘be’ about it. Here's your remix for this episode:Step 1 — Process and release. Honor the story. Do the work. Get whatever support you need to walk through it. There is no shame in needing help — that is wisdom, not weakness. Just don't stay there. Open your hand and allow the release.Step 2 — Reclaim your power. You get to decide who you will be in spite of what happened — or because of it. Don't let a season assign you a permanent label. That power belongs to you.Step 3 — You get still. You get quiet. And you ask yourself: what is my heart telling me to do next? Whatever comes up is your next right aligned step. Not the whole plan — just the next move. Trust her, friend. She already knows.GET YOUR JOURNAL PROMPTSWant to go deeper on this episode? Journal prompts are waiting for you — designed to help you get clear on your desires, honor yourself now, and start stepping toward your next level with intention and without guilt.👉 Get YoursLET’S STAY CONNECTED📍Come share what shifted for you after this episode. Drop a review, comment on a YouTube video, or hit reply on the weekly Love Notes newsletter.💌Not on the Love Notes list yet? Join at the link below — it is the best way to stay connected and keep the encouragement coming straight to your inbox every week. 👉 Subscribe Here📺 New videos DAILY on YouTube: @EO_E 🎙️ New podcast episodes every Tuesday and Thursday 🌐 encourageovereverything.com🎵 Music: It's Easy to Love You💖💖 Confident and Empowered Women with Letitia Hopkins drops every Tuesday and Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If today's conversation shifted something for you, leave a review — your words help other women find this podcast and there is a woman out there right now who needs exactly what you just heard.