You Are Renting Your Relationships

You cannot rent a relationship and expect it to show up in a crisis.Americans now spend 35 minutes a day socializing. Research out of the University of Kansas puts a close friendship at more than 200 hours.Run that math and the loneliness of successful people stops being a mystery and starts being arithmetic.Most high achievers are excellent renters and terrible owners. Renting rewards the same skill your career rewards, which is performance. Ownership requires something else entirely, which is being known.Appearing is a performance with an audience. Building is a payment with no receipt.I break down the three deposits that separate them, and the 20-minute audit that tells you which economy you are living in, in this week's Decisive Moments.