You Cannot Build a Real Marriage on a Curated Version of Yourself

What you don't say before the wedding can shake your entire marriage to its foundation. Memi and Dr. Lara are pulling back the curtain on the conversations most couples avoid, rush through, or flat-out skip and why those silences cost you later. From body counts to bankruptcy, chronic illness to childhood trauma, this episode breaks down exactly what belongs on the table before you say "I do" and gives you a practical framework to figure out what's your secret to keep and what's your partner's right to know.In this episode, you'll learn:Why health disclosures (chronic illness, STIs, fertility challenges, genotype) are non-negotiable before marriageHow to talk about debt, financial history, and money habits without it feeling like an interrogationWhat past relationship history, including previous marriages, children, and adoptions because your future spouse deserves to knowHow trauma, mental health diagnoses, and addiction histories show up in marriage whether you name them or notFive self-check questions to help you decide if something needs to be disclosed before you walk down the aisleWhether you're engaged, dating seriously, or already married and realizing some conversations got skipped, this episode meets you where you are.CHAPTERS _______________________________________________________________________________00:00 Introduction & Cold Open 00:28 Welcome to Chats from the Peak01:34 Today's Topic: What to Disclose Before Marriage03:58 Health Disclosures: Chronic Illness, STIs & Genotypes07:40 Finances: Debt, Credit & Money Conversations13:29 Past Relationships: How Much Is Too Much?18:03 Trauma, Mental Health & Addiction Histories22:34 The Observation Factor: Reading Family Dynamics23:10 Practical Takeaways: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself26:26 Closing Thoughts & Homework for CouplesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/chats-from-the-peak-a-marriage-pinnacle-podcast--6737017/support.Check out 101 CHATS TO REACH THE PEAK Convo Cards- Carefully curated to generate healthy dialogue aimed at strengthening connections. If you are dating, engaged, or married, there is a deck for you!!!Grab your deck here ---- 101 Chats to Reach the Peak Be sure to like, comment and subscribe to keep up with all things Marriage Pinnacle!Stay on the Peak and subscribe to our Peak Seekers community at http://www.marriagepinnacle.com, where you'll be the first to know about new episodes, receive discount codes for exciting merch drops, and upcoming events!Follow us on:IG: @marriagepinnacle Twitter: @thapeakTiktok: marriagepinnacleFacebook: Marriage PinnacleYou'll get the most up-to-date information, free tips, and relationship support resources!