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Nov 25, 2025 20 min

You Can’t Fix Me, But Please Stand By Me

from Mad Mel’s Mic Hosted by Melissa Smith

Send us Fan Mail We share what a second run through the STAIR program revealed about PTSD, emotion regulation, and the quiet signs of progress. A poem, a song, and a freezer‑door trick anchor simple tools you can use when the threat system takes over. • outpatient stay at St John of God and why it helps • STAIR explained as skills for emotion, communication, and boundaries • feeling again after numbness and noticing growth • drive, soothe, threat systems and why soothe shrinks in PTSD • SUDS check‑ins, naming emotions, and body mapping • practicing skills in the green zone to use in red • fast arousal drops with cold, space, and grounding • upcoming courses on sleep and trauma recovery • pickleball, Persian food, and a lesson in humility • season plan, holiday pause, and self‑kindness over comparison You can find me on Facebook and Instagram, and don’t forget to like and follow Song of the Week: Andra Day - Rise Up https://youtu.be/lwgr_IMeEgA Thought of the Week: "There will be a lot of posts soon from people sharing how much they achieved in 2025. But, in case someone needs to hear this.... It's okay if the only thing you did this year was just get through it"

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Send us Fan Mail We share what a second run through the STAIR program revealed about PTSD, emotion regulation, and the quiet signs of progress. A poem, a song, and a freezer‑door trick anchor simple tools you can use when the threat system takes over. • outpatient stay at St John of God and why it helps • STAIR explained as skills for emotion, communication, and boundaries • feeling again after numbness and noticing growth • drive, soothe, threat systems and why soothe shri...

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  1. 0:00 Welcome And Why I Missed Last Week
  2. 0:50 Outpatient Stay At St John Of God
  3. 2:04 A Poem About Showing Up
  4. 4:20 Song Of The Week: Rise Up
  5. 6:05 What The STER Program Is
  6. 7:20 Feeling Again After Numbness
  7. 8:53 Drive, Soothe, And Threat Systems
  8. 10:08 Naming Emotions And SUDS Check-Ins
  9. 12:00 Practicing Soothing Skills In The Green
  10. 13:20 Cooling The System When Overwhelmed
  11. 14:10 Program Takeaways And Next Courses
  12. 15:05 Pickleball, Persian Food, And A Geography Fail
  13. 17:05 Sports, Heat, And Daily Life
  14. 18:38 Season Plans And Holiday Pause
  15. 19:45 Thought Of The Week And Social Media Reality
  16. 20:40 Closing And Where To Follow

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