You Can't Heal What You Won't Feel with Louise Cartwright

Louise was ready to leave her marriage before she even walked down the aisle. Fear kept her there for years. Fear of being alone, of breaking up her family, of what people would think. The day her husband finally moved out, she drove her kids to nursery school and noticed something she hadn't felt in years: a real smile. Not a performance. The actual thing.That moment set off twenty years of becoming from personal trainer, to studio owner, to Certified High Performance and Somatic coach, and a lot of hard-won clarity about why we stay stuck long after we know better.Louise is a mind-body coach who combines somatics with high performance coaching to help women release what they've been carrying in their bodies, not just their minds, for years. And in this conversation, she is as honest as it gets.We talk about what it actually means to hold trauma in your body and why you can't think your way out of it. Why achieving more, more certifications, more credentials, more results, still left her feeling like it wasn't enough. What somatic work looks like in practice and the moment she realized something had genuinely shifted. We talk about the question she asks every woman she works with: what do you really, really want?, how to know when you're giving yourself a dishonest answer, and why stop gatekeeping other people's emotions might be the most important thing you hear today.She also says something about her children that I think is going to stay with you: she could still see the impact of her first marriage on her kids, now in their mid-twenties. Not as a guilt trip. As a reminder of what's actually at stake when we stay too long.Her parting message: you will always figure it out. And if the divorce wasn't your choice, the only question worth asking is, how could this be the best thing that's ever happened to me?