You Can’t Regulate Your Kid If You Can’t Regulate Yourself — Here’s Where to Start episode artwork

EPISODE · May 13, 2026 · 23 MIN

You Can’t Regulate Your Kid If You Can’t Regulate Yourself — Here’s Where to Start

from The Parenting Reframe · host Albiona Rakipi

Inside, she explores: →  Why a dysregulated parent can’t help a dysregulated child — and what actually has to happen first before any parenting strategy can work →  The two reasons most parents struggle to stay regulated in hard moments: not being able to access tools when it counts, and not having a plan to follow through on →  How the PAR method works in real time — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect — and what it sounds like with a toddler tantrum versus a teenager who won’t back down →  Simple regulation tools you can use in the middle of a meltdown, including breathwork, body-based interrupts, and how to name what you’re feeling without fixing it →  How to build a plan for the predictable hard moments before they happen — so you’re not scrambling, reactive, or white-knuckling your way through it Connect with Albiona: →  Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) — https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching →  Follow Albiona on Instagram — @theparentingreframe →  Join Albiona’s Paid Substack Community — https://theparentingreframe.substack.com →  Email Albiona directly — [email protected] Loved this episode? Please rate, review, and share this episode with a parent who’s tired of losing their cool and not knowing how to stop. Emotion regulation is one of the most overlooked parenting skills out there — the more this conversation reaches people, the better. Until next time, Albiona 🤎 The Parenting Reframe Podcast is edited by JAG Podcast Productions: https://jagpodcastproductions.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Episode metadata supplied by the publisher feed · Published May 13, 2026

Embed this episode

Every parent wants to stay calm in the hard moments. The meltdowns, the arguments, the complete refusal to listen. But wanting to stay calm and actually knowing how to get there are two very different things. In this solo episode, Albiona breaks down what it really means to be a regulated parent — and why it’s the foundation everything else is built on. This one is practical. Albiona walks through her four-step PAR process (Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect), the two reasons most parents can’t access regulation in the moment, and how having a clear plan changes the entire dynamic — for you and your child.

Distinct summary based on available episode metadata or transcript content.

Ready to play

You Can’t Regulate Your Kid If You Can’t Regulate Yourself — Here’s Where to Start

0:00 23:57

No transcript for this episode yet

We transcribe on demand. Request one and we'll notify you when it's ready — usually under 10 minutes.

No similar episodes found.

No similar podcasts found.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long is this episode of The Parenting Reframe?

This episode is 23 minutes long.

When was this The Parenting Reframe episode published?

This episode was published on May 13, 2026.

Can I download this The Parenting Reframe episode?

Yes. Use the download control on the episode player to save the publisher-provided media file.
URL copied to clipboard!