You Can’t Split Kids In Half, But You Can Find Yourself Again

Send us Fan MailThe word “fair” can wreck a divorce. We open by naming that truth and then walk you through a smarter path: negotiate like a strategist, heal like a human, and design a life that actually fits. Instead of chasing 50‑50 symmetry, we focus on durable outcomes—why protecting retirement might beat grabbing home equity, how alimony intersects with assets, and when “losing a battle” secures the war. You’ll hear a clear, practical way to zoom out, weigh tradeoffs, and stop paying attorney rates for therapy work.We also get real about co‑parenting and the grief of missed moments. That pain is normal. The pivot is reframing: your child is building memories with their other parent while you rebuild your identity. Use that window to rest, reconnect, and return more present. We share the rituals and mindset that make shared time sustainable, plus the underrated power move of picking a theme song you can blast to shift your state on demand.On the inner work, we dig into radical acceptance and the trap of obsessing over “why.” Closure often doesn’t arrive, and that’s okay. With the right therapist—one who engages and challenges—you can replace control with clarity. We recommend tools that help: Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly for courage and vulnerability, Jen Sincero’s You Are a Badass for punchy action, and Ariana Huffington’s reflections on life, love, and work to integrate deeper change. We wrap with a nervous‑system‑first approach to big feelings: cry when you need to, scream into a pillow if that’s your lane, and watch how the highs get higher and the lows lose their pull.If you’re navigating divorce, this conversation gives you a practical map: protect your assets, steady your emotions, and reclaim who you are becoming. Listen now, subscribe for more grounded guidance, and share this with someone who could use a lifeline today. Then tell us: what’s one boundary you’ll set this week?Hi and welcome to Thrive and Decide. I’m your host Sarah Thress. This podcast is intended to help women who are going through a divorce, continplating divorce or have lost a spouse feel seen, heard, understood and not alone. All the beautiful souls who share on here are coming from a place of vulnerability and a common belief that sharing your story will help others. You will also hear from industry experts on what to do and not do while going through a divorce. Sarah [email protected] and Decide Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/thrive_and_decide/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61559936633799https://www.facebook.com/SarahThressRealtor/https://www.instagram.com/sarah_thress_realtor/Real Estate Podcast Come To Find Out:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/come-to-find-out/id1704949604Real Estate First Time Home Buyers course: https://sarahthress.graphy.com/