You Didn’t Ruin It. You Just Felt 8 Again.

Most people think they “self-sabotage” because something is wrong with them.But what if the problem isn’t you…it’s the environment you were shaped in?In this episode, I break down one of the most important patterns I see in my therapy room:The type of home you grew up in may be driving how you react as an adult.We’ll explore four childhood environments that often lead to self-sabotage:– Chaos that makes calm feel unsafe– Emotional absence that makes closeness overwhelming– Performance-based love that makes success feel threatening– Early loss that makes happiness feel temporaryAnd the question that changes everything:How old did you feel in that moment?Because a lot of the time, it’s not your adult self making the decision.It’s a younger version of you trying to protect you.This episode will help you recognize the pattern — and start separating who you are now from who had to survive back then. Get full access to Daniela Marin at djma89.substack.com/subscribe