You Don’t Hate It, You Hate How You’re Doing It

Have you noticed how quickly we decide we hate something - social media, working out, dating - without ever questioning whether we actually hate the thing itself, or just how we’ve been doing it? This episode started with an unexpected gift from a listener I’ve never worked with, which sparked a bigger conversation about why we drain the joy out of everything by treating it like homework. In this episode we dive into:• The real reason you think you hate social media, exercise, or building new habits• How transactional thinking kills genuine connection (and your results)• The one question that makes consistency actually sustainableThe Thing You Hate vs. How You Feel Doing It• We say “I don’t like social media” but actually mean “I don’t like doom scrolling for 30 minutes and feeling guilty”• When someone says they hate working out, they’re really saying they hate the discomfort - not movement itself• We’re confusing the activity with the miserable way we’ve been approaching itWhen Everything Becomes Homework• Business owners treat Instagram like a graded assignment where every post must be transactional• A client got excited about meal prep when our AI tool removed friction and added novelty• The moment you measure everything by “how fast can I be done,” you’ve already lost• This pressure comes from following someone else’s blueprint instead of building what fits your lifeThe Gift That Changed My Perspective• I received a package from someone who’s never paid me - just genuinely engaged with my content for 14 months• Her note thanked me for always answering her DMs, which shocked me because I never thought twice about it• So many coaches are taught to ignore people who aren’t actively buying• This relationship gave me market research and genuine connection because I wasn’t trying to extract valueIntegration vs. Separation• Content creation feels seamless when you integrate it into your life instead of treating it as a separate task• Recording while grabbing coffee, trying new spots, changing scenery - it’s just documenting life• When podcasting becomes part of your identity, even recording late at night doesn’t feel like a burdenYour FYX Wellness Tip: The Question That Changes Everything• Instead of “What do I NEED to do to get results?” ask “What can I do to make this easier to repeat tomorrow?”• Notice how “need” implies force and obligation• Could you work out at a different time instead of forcing yourself to be a 6am person?• Consistency comes from ease and integration, not from pushing harder and creating more frictionThis conversation reminds us that we don’t actually hate the things we say we hate - we hate doing them in ways that make us miserable. Whether you’re a business owner treating social media like homework or someone trying to build healthier habits while drowning in shoulds, this episode offers permission to stop forcing yourself through processes designed to feel terrible.Follow Krysta:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thekrystahuber⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠@thespreadmktg⁠Instagram: ⁠@thefitnessfyx⁠