You don't have to be the Trauma that Raised You: An Interview with Author Lena Fein

Send us Fan MailA spotless house. A raging mother. A silent father. And a child who learns to survive by shutting down her own heart. We’re joined by Lena Fine, author of *Shattering the Mirror: One Woman’s Journey of Healing*, for a raw conversation about childhood emotional abuse, shame, and the kind of “good family” image that can hide deep disconnection. We talk about what it does to you when the person who should protect you is the one who hurts you, and what it’s like to grow up with constant criticism about your body, your worth, and your voice. Lena walks us through how overachieving can become armor, how an inner critic can keep a parent’s words alive for decades, and why adult relationships can replay old wounds even when you don’t see the pattern yet. If you’ve ever felt numb, alone in a crowded room, or drawn to love that feels familiar but not safe, you’ll hear yourself in this. Lena also shares what actually helps: therapy that names reality, somatic healing, supportive friendships, and reclaiming joy through dance, singing, music, and art. We explore boundaries that protect your kids and break generational trauma, plus the surprising moment that cracked her world open: looking into her mother’s eyes near the end of her life and sensing something shift. If this conversation hits home, subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next, share it with someone who needs it, and leave a review to help more listeners find Real Talk With Tina And Ann.Support the show