You Know Better. So Why Do You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns? ft. Vienna Pharaon, LMFT

Why do you keep entering into the same relationship patterns when you know better?We talk a lot about personal growth, but rarely about where our patterns actually come from. In this episode of Great Things, Adrian sits down with Vienna Pharaon, licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, relationship expert, and author of The Origins of You, for an honest conversation about self-awareness, relationships, and what doing the work really looks like day to day. One thing she said that stuck with us: progress doesn't mean you're never going to re-enter a pattern, it means that when you do, you notice it sooner and exit quicker. Just acknowledging the patterns in your relationships isn't enough; you have to be willing to commit to the consequences if you want to see measurable change.The truth of the matter: it might cost you a relationship if you're trying to make meaningful growth.Connect with Vienna:Grab her bookFollow her on InstagramFind your Origin WoundBook a counseling sessionListen to her podcastConnect with Adrian:📩 Subscribe to Adrian's Free Newsletter for MoreFollow Great Things Take Time on InstagramWatch on YouTube0:00 - Intro0:10 - Why do so many people struggle to understand their own patterns and where should someone start?13:30 - How do early experiences shape the way we show up in relationships and repeat certain dynamics?24:08 - What does true self-awareness actually look like, and how do you build it over time?29:20 - Why is personal growth so uncomfortable, and what does consistency in emotional work really mean?34:50 - What are a few simple tools or habits people can start using today to begin changing their patterns?40:57 - Rapid fire questions